Wednesday, 19 October 2011

Whats in a Metal?

whats in a metal? i asked myself driving back home from my aunts place.
my aunt who was happily married three years ago thought there was everything in a metal-power, happiness and the fact that your friends don't have it while you do. she was complaining how her husband wouldn't fulfill her demands, demands of buying new gold.

i thought of this from her husbands point of view, who worked as a teacher and belonged to a middle class family. i mean he earns enough so as to lead a happy life satisfying all the basic necessities. inspite of that he goes out of his way to keep my aunt happy.

on the other hand my aunt is always thinking of buying something new, whether it be furniture or accessories, shes a certified shopaholic. and, all that her husband is doing or has been doing is never appreciated until he gets her some jewellery etc?

i know, we girls love to shop! i also understand that we've got both desires and needs. i personally love to shop but i will never ever take it to that extent where it can lead to a break up with my partner.
i mean i didn't marry for him to become my Atm or my love for him cannot be confined to some metal which is     difficult for him to buy?!

what are you gonna do with all that gold or any other piece of jewellery for that matter without him by your side?? i mean where do we stand with all these luxuries but without his consent?

We all must learn to get done with our Needs first rather than paying heed to our Wants .

In Fashion now, will wear out tomorrow. 

Will this make him smile?

   Beautifying yourself for him when he cant afford it?

story of your life?? 


Love is beyond all conditions and material-isms. Love him for who he is and what he can provide to you.
let us start making marriages a bliss!! :")


Sunday, 16 October 2011

Crush a Crush!

"OMG!! look at that guy! hes so smoking hot! will he like me? should i go talk to him? did he just look back at me??? awww i  guess he likes me too! would so love to marry him! "

do such thoughts reoccur on your mind often? do you see a guy and go Ga-ga over him? 
do you get serious about a guy as soon as you meet him? like you want to get him by hook or by crook?

I've seen many girls doing this. the major reason would be our typical romeo-Juliet movies that we get to watch or explicit content we read. moreover on a larger canvas, this age seems to have only one thing on mind which is dating. if you are not dating you are not worth anything. like girls as young as say twelve or thirteen have boy friends without even knowing much about them?! really? do you even understand what commitment means darling? ah i dont think you do!

i mean whats the point of rushing into a relationship so soon? and then that guy is not serious about you. you break up and go gloomy emo types? it is so not acceptable to let anybody hurt you like that! because as a student of psychology i can tell that the memories of your childhood somehow will effect your mindset and your happiness later on.

apart from kiddos, adolescents must know that they have got to go a long way. nope the worlds not ending yet and seeing someone is not the only thing you could/should do. life cannot be restricted to doing that alone. its so much bigger!

let me tell you what i believe , i believe my creator knows who/where and how my Mr. Perfect will come to me. 
i know someone is made for me and for me alone! its for the fate to decide when exactly we will meet. 
so i dont go places searching for him because i know i wont find him till that moment fate has chosen already!

" zindagi mein pyaar toh ek hi baar hota hai ", then what are you trying to do seeing random people and breaking up, taking forever to get back on track? giving up on life because he hurt you? well, you alone are letting him in the first place!

Girls!! wake up! trust your God, trust Him and crush all your crushes!!!!